Giving feedback can feel awkward - in sex, in kink, and in life. But learning how to speak up with care and curiosity is one of the most powerful skills we can practice. Here’s how to do it without killing the mood (or the connection).

Comparison is one of the quietest ways we disconnect - from our partner(s), our play, and ourselves. When we stop measuring people against others, we start seeing them for who they truly are: whole, unique, and full of possibilities.

Boundaries are the edges that make pleasure possible. But even when you set them clearly, it’s easy to find yourself - bit by bit - drifting past them without realizing it.

Respectful kink isn’t a script to perform for sex, power, or approval. When practiced authentically, it’s about co-creating joy, not manipulation. This post explores the journey from performative gestures to embodied presence, where kink becomes a playful, filthy, and trust-filled collaboration rooted in genuine connection.

Not every kink is going to be your cup of tea. You don’t have to love or want every kink that exists. What matters is how you respond to the ones that aren’t for you.

Interactions on dating sites can be full of red flags. And sometimes we commit them without even realising. In this post we share 10 common red flags on dating sites and what to do instead if you notice you do them.

A few days ago we shared five questions to help you get started talking to your partner about kink. Now we also explore how those same five questions can strengthen any connection in your life.

Kink is a journey, not a destination. Gratitude for today’s play builds trust, confidence, and connection - preparing you for tomorrow’s adventures, one beautiful, present moment at a time.

Want to explore kink with your partner but not sure how to start the conversation? These five thoughtful questions make it easier to open up, build trust, and spark curiosity together.

In kink, aftercare is non-negotiable. After a scene we don’t just pack up the toys and walk away. We check in. We debrief. We hold each other. What if we took the same approach as leaders delivering a tough blow of difficult feedback?

Planning doesn’t have to make kink less sexy. It can make it more sexy. And it can create the structure and container for that perfect blend of consent and spontaneity to co-exist.

If you’re exploring BDSM or other forms of kinky play, you’ve probably come across the word aftercare. But what does it actually mean? And why do so many kink communities treat it as essential?